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Vatican denies Pope said condoms could be used to avoid pregnancy - The Catholic Church has moved to clarify remarks made by the Pope which suggested contraceptives could be used to prevent unwanted pregnancies.
The Vatican's moral watchdog, the Congregation of the Doctrine of the Faith, issued a statement insisting some commentators had misunderstood and misrepresented the Pope's remarks in a book-length interview released last month entitled Light of the World.
In the book, the pontiff said that condoms were not the real or moral solution to battling HIV and Aids but added that condom use in some cases, such as for male prostitutes, could be a first step in a more moral and responsible human sexuality.
Since the comments were published in a Vatican newspaper last month, the Holy See has been under pressure from conservative theologians to issue such a clarification after widespread confusion about what Pope Benedict XVI meant and whether he was breaking with church teaching.
A Vatican statement issued today reaffirmed that the church considered prostitution gravely immoral'.
'However, those involved in prostitution who are HIV positive and who seek to diminish the risk of contagion by the use of a condom may be taking the first step in respecting the life of another even if the evil of prostitution remains in all its gravity,' it said.
It stressed the Pope's logic was 'in full conformity with the moral theological tradition of the church'.
Benedict XVI's comments have caused confusion ever since their publication ahead of the official release date of the book in an excerpt in the Vatican newspaper L'Osservatore Romano on November 20.
The official Italian translation of the original German published in L'Osservatore made two errors that fuelled the confusion; it used the word 'justified in the pope's analysis and also used the feminine version of 'prostitute' as opposed to the masculine - an important distinction given that condoms in heterosexual intercourse are a form of artificial contraception, which the church opposes.
Vatican spokesman the Rev. Federico Lombardi then added to the confusion when he said at the official book presentation on November 23 that he had spoken to the pontiff and asked if it mattered whether the prostitute in question was male or female.
Mr Lombardi said the pope told him no, and that it did not matter if it was a man, woman or transsexual.
In its new statement, the Vatican stuck closely to what the pontiff originally said in the interview and stressed that he was not talking about sex between husband and wife or condom use as a means of contraception.
'The idea that anyone could deduce from the words of Benedict XVI that it is somehow legitimate, in certain situations, to use condoms to avoid an unwanted pregnancy is completely arbitrary and is in no way justified either by his words or in his thought,' the statement said. ( dailymail.co.uk )
Grinding your teeth If your partner doesn't tell you, apart from the toll it takes on teeth - which will wear down faster, may chip off or even crack - one of the key signs to watch for is waking up with a crushing headache. Dentists can make you a night guard which will stop you from locking your teeth. They cannot stop the motion but the plastic guard will ensure that teeth are rubbing against a smoother, softer surface.
Cold feet A team of Swiss scientists recently confirmed that it is virtually impossible to get to sleep with cold feet and recommended a hot water bottle for curing insomnia. Dr Kurt Krauchi, who led researchers, also favours the hot-water bottle as a means for cooling the body, claiming the arteries in the hands and feet dilate just before sleep, allowing more blood to flow through which cools down the body temperature, which he argues triggers sleep. Some sleep disorders may be caused by a failure of those arteries to dilate and a hot-water bottle can synthetically dilate the veins so that the body temperature falls - inducing sleep.
Curling up Curling up in bed could cause backache or even osteo-arthritis. During the day we adopt postures that are not good for us. 'When we curl up in bed, we are perpetuating an exaggerated form of the bad posture we have assumed all day,' says Robin Shutt, lecturer in physiotherapy at the University of East Anglia. 'This may lead to backache but, more seriously, could cause osteo-arthritis in later years from an overload on the vertebrae.' Rather than automatically curling into the foetal position in bed, try some stretches.
Sleep-walking Sleep-walking tends to run in families and affects one-in-six children at some stage. During sleep, memories of what occurred during the day are processed, activated and stored. At the stage in sleep where the mind becomes most active, the body becomes most relaxed, except in families genetically predisposed to sleep-walking where the emotional processing of problems may get linked to movement. Sleep-walkers should be gently steered back to bed and possible stress factors should be examined to try to prevent it in the future. Protective measures, such as putting locks on windows, doors and securing gates to the top of stairs, should be taken.
A nightcap Alcohol at bedtime is best avoided on a regular basis. It will send you off to sleep faster but as the drink metabolises, the brain becomes more excitable and you are more likely to wake a couple of hours later.
Falling asleep without removing make-up Make-up left to clog pores - which will open in the warmth of your bed - will result in blackheads or eruptions. Eyeliner and mascara left on over night can cause conjunctivitis.
Sleeping tablets These should only be regarded as a temporary measure. 'Although you wake up feeling as if you have slept very well, what you have got is a suppression of some of your sleep cycles,' says Dr Peter Fenwick, consultant neuro-psychiatrist at the Institute of Psychiatry. 'Most tablets have a knock-on effect,' says Dr Fenwick, 'This means you think less clearly during the day, and will feel sluggish.'
Insomnia How much you suffer may depend not only on the amount of sleep you lose but at what stage in the sleep cycle it occurs. Early insomnia, says Dr Fenwick, is often due to life events. Problems at work, a row with your partner, means you may have difficulty getting off to sleep. Waking in the middle of the night is virtually always due to anxiety. Late insomnia - where someone sleeps through the night but wakes at 4am, unable to drift off again - is usually associated with depression. The most effective treatment is through trying to tackle the underlying stress or anxiety responsible. ( dailymail.co.uk )
Fortunately, some job seekers are wising up to how they present themselves in cyberspace. Rather than developing a profile that could quickly get them fired, savvy professionals are increasingly using social networking Web sites to find jobs, develop key contacts and advance their careers.
"Having an online identity is becoming increasingly important as a way to establish your credibility and personal brand and to attract career or business opportunities," say Ellen Sautter and Diane Crompton, co-authors of "Seven Days to Online Networking." To ensure that people create a profile savvy enough to help them land a job, they offer the following tips.
How to get hired
Be consistent from site to site.
Too often recruiters and hiring managers get mixed messages about job candidates based on their online profiles. For example, you might have a LinkedIn profile that portrays you as a driven go-getter with an excellent sales background, but your MySpace profile portrays you as someone who lives the life of an '80s rock star. Make sure that every profile you create portrays the same person -- someone who's respectable, professional and high-achieving.
Master a brief sound bite.
When looking at your profile, hiring managers and recruiters want to learn more about you. The "About You" section of your profile offers the perfect opportunity to briefly describe your work history, strengths and notable achievements. This paragraph should be similar to a thirty-second elevator speech you may have already prepared about yourself.
Develop a network.
Some people prefer massive networks that consist of hundreds of strangers from around the globe. Others prefer a small network that includes only people they've befriended, are related to or have worked with. Crompton and Sautter suggest developing a network of 50 to 150 contacts through each site.
Showcase your skills through links.
You should include links to your blog, webfolio or Web site, if they are relevant to your career. If you don't have any of these things, consider including links to any projects or work you might have been involved in that can be viewed online.
Strategically use keywords in the "Tags" section.
Similar to using keywords in a résumé, this strategy allows you to list words that help other people in your network or search engines find you. These words can include your area of expertise, job titles, industries, hobbies and anything else that defines you as a professional.
Just as there are plenty of things people can do with their profiles to help them stand out in cyberspace, there are dozens of faux pas people commit all too often. The following five mistakes are some of the most common social networking missteps.
How to get fired
Post a scandalous photo.
You know what I'm talking about: It's the photo of you showing off your hot, bronze body in a barely there bikini. It's the portrait of you -- in all your glory -- bonging a beer while sporting a Bears jersey at last week's tailgate. Profile pictures like this may be amusing and help you score a ton of friend requests, but they certainly won't impress your employer.
View or update your profile on company time.
You can't help it. You have to accept a friend request as soon as you receive it. You have to know who has added pictures to their profile in the past hour. And as soon as you realize wakeboarding tops your list of interests, you have to immediately change your profile to reflect this. You jokingly refer to it as your Facebook addiction, but it's no laughing matter to your employer. Instead, it's considered a waste of company time if you're scoping out these Web sites while at work.
Post information that conflicts with your employer's values.
Remember that anything you wouldn't want to share with your supervisor or co-workers is better left off your profile. This information may include how you spend your leisure time, how you feel about sensitive issues or any personal experiences you may have had. Also, be cautious about things your friends post on your profile that may portray you negatively.
Reveal why you're a lousy employee.
Ever taken a sick day to hit the beach, rather than nurse a cold? Or maybe you were supposed to work from home one afternoon, but your profile suggests you slept in and spent the afternoon catching up on your soaps. Believe it or not, some people actually make this information public on their profile! Whether you reveal this kind of information in your profile status or a friend has left a comment ratting you out, be aware that if others can see it so can an employer.
Vent about your employer, boss or job.
Many social networking sites allow people to include their work history. Posting unnecessary, negative information about a particular aspect of the job, such as "Job sucks, but it pays the bills," gives an employer all the reasons he needs to slap you with a pink slip.( msn.com )
Some of you have written to me about wanting to land a job overseas until the bad economy here blows over. Others want to find a job working from home, or as close to home as possible, because of escalating gas prices.
My advice: Don't make any rash decisions.
If you're intrigued by the idea of working abroad, there are lots of opportunities. But pulling up your roots in the U.S. and heading off to a foreign land is anything but easy.
"Since international experience is becoming increasingly more important all around, choosing to work abroad for a few years can not only help executives dodge a shaky U.S. economy, but it can also have a long-term career payoff," says Lisa Tromba, vice president at Battalia Winston, an executive search firm.
That is, if you do your research.
"Think carefully about whether you are going to move before securing a position or if you will wait to find a role before taking the plunge," advises Diane Morgan, director of career services at London Business School.
"If you are looking to be a surf instructor in Costa Rica and are comfortable with ambiguity, have some money stashed away. If you are flexible, you could move first and then look for a job," she adds. "However, this strategy is usually limited to students on gap years who are more interested in experience than pay or rewarding work. The more skilled you are, the more you have to carefully investigate the move to and return from a country other than your own."
Sound too good to be true?
And beware of international job offer scams. I know you're all worried about finances and maybe even desperate to find a gig. But don't let common sense fly out the window.
One reader sent me this e-mail recently:
"I'm from a small town in New Mexico. I recently received a job offer from a company by the name of Caltex in London. They offered me what seems to me a handsome salary of 15,200 pounds (a month). Since this would be a huge change of environment for me and my family I just need to know if you've heard of Caltex Oil and Gas in London."
Immediately, I thought this sounded too good to be true, so I asked him how he found out about the job.
"I heard about the position via e-mail from a recruiting company. I then submitted my résumé, and a few days later they e-mailed a contract. I will attach to this e-mail. I have insisted that I get a phone call from them, but they have not done so. In fact, the last e-mail I was sent had instructions of what to do for me to get a work visa. Part of those instructions said that they needed a $2,400 security deposit for the visa."
Warning sign! You should never have to pay anything to get a job, folks. And if they don't call you or ask you for a face-to-face interview, then I'd say run like heck.
I called Caltex, which is a division of Chevron Corp. The spokesman I talked to said he'd heard about scams like this before. He stressed that the company does not solicit job applicants randomly via e-mail and does not ask for money upfront.
So, the rule of thumb is that finding a job overseas is just like finding a job in the good old USA. No one is going to send you an unsolicited e-mail offering you the chance of a lifetime. You have to check out any firm you are considering applying to, and make sure you meet a hiring manager before you pack up your suitcase.
Go to reputable job boards and type in locations you're interested in relocating to, and make sure to do extensive research on the firm. Also, talk to expatriates who are now working for these companies and find out what their transition was like. A reputable firm will be more than happy to share this information with you once you get to the point when they've made a job offer.
Other useful tools, according to Morgan, include "newspapers written in English but published in the area. For example the Bangkok Post can give insights to non-Thais living and working in Thailand." Also, she says, "discussion groups on the Internet as well as your local librarian can all give you insight."
Another good source, she adds, "is your college alumni network, which usually has chapters set up in major international cities. LinkedIn is a good networking tool that can also offer you introductions to professionals working in the area."
Make big bucks from home!
The other major topic I have been hearing about has to do with readers wanting staying closer to home.
I have written extensively about work-at-home scams both in this column and on my blog, CareerDiva.net, but many of you keep sending me e-mails asking me if certain job offers are legit.
Of all the e-mails you all have sent me in recent months, not one of the jobs offers you've received via e-mail sounded real to me.
And readers keep wanting me to recommend companies that offer telecommuting options. Unfortunately, I don't recommend firms because I don't want to be seen as endorsing one company over another. You'll all have to do your research to figure out where these opportunities are. There are lots of sources on the Web, including the major job boards.
Also, don't rule out applying to a company you know and like and asking if telecommuting is an option. More and more employers are considering this options for workers, especially in light of high prices at the pump.
While I won't recommend companies, I will try to offer you advice on certain types of jobs or industries you can look into, and I'll also try to answer any general questions you have on work-at-home offers you come across. So keep the e-mails coming.
Do not pay money up front
Here's one from a woman who lives in Chadwick, Mo.:
"Are there any legitimate work-at-home jobs for health care workers? I am a registered nurse. I have investigated several advertisements. However, most of them want money up front just to tell you where to look for a job. I would be very interested in any information or links that would assist me. I have a background in management, med surge, hospice and acute care. At this time, I drive 80 miles round-trip."
OK, I can't say this enough: Do not pay money up front to get a job. This is not how it works in the real world of employment. Requests for any money or personal information in e-mails or over the phone are scams, 99.9 percent of the time.
As for her options, Tim Schoonover with talent management firm OI Partners in Cincinnati offers some examples.
With a health care background, he says, she could get work answering medical questions from home via health help lines. Some insurance companies and nonprofits have these types of call centers, he says, including Aetna's Informed Health Line, the March of Dimes and the Arthritis Foundation.
In addition, Schoonover adds, she could also look into coordinating home health carerecruitment of nurses for medical facilities, writing training materials and protocols or developing safety compliance protocols. services, managing
The key is paring your expertise and skills with jobs that can be done from a home base, and then actively going out and finding companies that could be a fit. Please don't wait for offers to show up in your e-mail box. ( msn.com )
According to Kendall, an estimated 80 percent of companies perform background checks on job applicants. Today's terror-aware atmosphere and litigious society makes employers responsible to a greater degree for checking out the candidates they hire. It can be very difficult for most employers to get past a conviction on an applicant's record, so be prepared for rejection. You also have to realize you are starting over fresh after a conviction and must begin the laborious process of gathering experience and gaining society's trust. Here are some suggestions for getting back to employment:
1. First, consult legal council about the possibility of getting your record expunged, sealed or the conviction reduced. These actions may not be available for every case, but it is definitely worth looking into.
2. Contact local human services organizations in your area to see if they offer programs and support for ex-felons. For example, Metropolitan Family Services in Chicago, www.metrofamily.org, operates the Young Fathers Initiative, a program that helps young dads, many with felony records, re-enter the workforce and reconnect with their children. Quincy Roseborough, case manager for Metropolitan's Young Fathers Initiative, says "There are companies that will hire ex-felons as long as the crimes are not violent crimes."
3. "Take whatever job you can to start rebuilding your experience and credibility," Kendall advises. Now is not the time to be picky. "Many of our clients start with jobs in manufacturing and fast food," Roseborough says. "The pay is mostly minimum wage and often the hours are long. But, some have opportunities to go to warehouse jobs where they can learn to drive a fork lift and gain other skills." Take the job and use it as an opportunity to showcase good job performance and to rebuild your experience and others' trust in you.
4. "Look to personal contacts and friends to help you get a job," Kendall asserts. Someone who knows you will not be as wary to take a chance on you.
5. Seek employment with small and local companies. "We promote looking for jobs with small companies and independent businesses and employers, instead of major chains," Roseborough divulges. Local businesses may have less stringent hiring requirements and are more willing to give you a chance.
6. Consider self-employment. Walt* was convicted at age 19 of drug possession and attempted sale. After serving time in prison, he took odd jobs in various auto shops and car dealerships to learn about car repair. He now works as an independent contractor and operates his own auto repair business. "We encourage the young men we work with to look into entrepreneurship. We suggest taking up a trade that a felony record wouldn't hinder, such as plumbing, construction or janitorial work. You can be your own employer with these skills," Roseborough says.
7. "Don't put the conviction on your resume," Kendall declares. "Consider putting it in your cover letter and enclosing letters of recommendation. Be honest and upfront." Most applications will require you to indicate if you've ever been convicted of a felony. If the question is not on the application, you don't want to let the process go too long without coming clean. You should let them know early on that you have a past record because it will show up in the background check.
8. Be professional and confident. "Many young men we see lack people skills. We tell them that when they go to an employment office or are in an interview if they are dressed appropriately, speak well, and have confidence it will show," Roseborough says. "We explain that their resume is like an ad in the newspaper, but they are the 'product;' and they have to go in and 'sell' themselves. Some employers will take a chance if there is a nice presentation."
9. Don't harbor false hope. "It's going to be hard. Having a felony on your record is a real obstacle, and it is only getting harder," Roseborough warns. You will be rejected. Just don't give up.
10. Seek emotional support. Whether it's family, close friends or a professional counselor, you will need to talk to someone for encouragement. Many ex-convicts experience depression when they meet repeated resistance in trying to once again find employment. Having that support system will help you stay focused and motivated when you feel discouraged. *Name changed to protect his identity ( msn.com )